The Short Answer:
WHO:
Individuals, Couples, Families, and Adolescents.
WHAT: Individual and Relationship Counseling, including Marriage, Premarital, Divorce, Family
for such issues as:
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Anxiety
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Phobias
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Depression
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Abuse Issues
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Identity Issues,
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Stress Management
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Unhappiness, “Is this all there is?” issues
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Consciousness Coaching
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Personal Growth & Enrichment.
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NEW! Energy Medicine (See separate page)
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SEMINARS: (See Energy Medicine for WORKSHOPS)
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Rebuilding After Your Relationship Ends Seminar twice annually
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Moment by Moment Workshop
The Long Answer:
COUPLES:
We know so much more now about what makes relationships work, and what makes them come apart. Working with couples is a passion for me - regardless of the configuration of the pair. So much of the pain that grows in couple relationships can be prevented. Therefore, I cherish the opportunity to work with couples who are committed or considering a commitment and want keep it healthy and alive – i.e. divorce proofed, are already committed and wanting to fix what’s “broken,” or are wanting to make a good thing great! OR have separated/divorced and want to complete that process in a sane way in which they can learn from miss-takes to feel confident that they can create the kind of future relationships that they want, especially if parenting is involved. SEE SECTION ON FAMILIES.
FAMILIES:
By their very nature, Families are COMPLEX. Together we can work on:
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-Communication Skills (self to self and self to other)
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-Conflict Resolution Skills
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-Fun among family members
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-Degree of Equanimity
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-Degree of Autonomy encouraged
and developing Loving, caring behaviors & whether those come attached to Expectations.
INDIVIDUALS:
This work is SOOOOO individual that it defies description. After the initial information gathering, I begin by asking, “What will be the evidence that lets you know that you have achieved what you came for?” Everything follows from the response to that question.
Knowing clearly where you want to be instead is the first step towards creating the path from here to there!
LET’S GET STARTED!! J
DIVORCE COUNSELING:
SO, your relationship is ending.
A MULTIPLE CHOICE QUESTION: How do you want to do that?
a. Make him/her hurt as much as you do.
b. Pretend he/she doesn’t exist.
c. Stay as far away from him/her as possible.
D. Stay friends.
E. Set aside our individual “stuff,” i.e. anger (rage?), betrayal, hurt etc enough to mediate a fair settlement. We want to avoid court battle.
F. Create a working parenting relationship for the kids’ sake.
G. _____(fill in the blank)_______________.
Whichever you choose, we’ll focus on what you determine to be truly in your best interest. Depending on your choice, we might look at a model to help you move from where you are now towards that desired future. Clarifying a vision of what that would look, sound, feel like, we’ll then identify what needs to happen for you to achieve that, and set about supporting whatever skills, understandings, behaviors are needed to attain that future.
